A few weeks ago I started class again at Hunter. It's my last class before I (finally) graduate.
I felt like Luke Wilson in Old School…what the hell am I still doing in college?! Can someone explain this to me? Oh yeah, I was working full time. So in my bafflement while walking around campus, I decided to make a list of reasons why this is so, so wrong:
1. I don’t do well with interacting socially with people my own age. I don’t know what normal people do and I don’t have the means or the will to pretend like I do or care.
2. I am almost the age of some professors I’ve had…
3. all the cute boys are…under 21. Great. What’s the younger version of a Cougar? A Bobcat or something. Yeah, that’s what I am. Unfortunately when I was 19 there were no cute boys…or I just didn’t see them because I was concerned with getting out of the building as fast as I humanly could
4. in the last few years I’ve been able to sympathize/empathize with the professors who have to deal with a classroom full of dummies. I feel your pain.
5. in another universe I may have been good with this college lifestyle…if it was the only thing I had to worry about in life, but that has never been the case. I’ve worked since I was 14 years old and I’ve always been too busy to lounge around campus and socialize and plan study groups. I don’t have time. Get in, get out, get on with your life (that’s what he said)
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Monday, February 21, 2011
Things I Learned In 2010
Things I’ve learned in the past year:
1. nothing is so bad that you can’t come back from it
2. everything DOES happen for a reason (regardless of what my sister says)
3. I’m much stronger than I thought I was (not just physically)
4. there are people out there who will stand by you no matter what…even when you’re difficult and even when they’re tired of always getting you out of the pickle you find yourself in…again
5. I really do love hugs…even though I pretend not to sometimes. It messes up my street cred.
6. Dr. House is right, people do lie about everything and they’re assholes. It’s just a matter of figuring out how much asshole you can handle in a person
7. I do really poorly at standing up for myself. As skeptical and jaded as I am, I am ridiculously naïve and trusting that people are inherently good and loyal. I strongly believe in loyalty…it’s the Spartan warrior code imbedded in my DNA.
8. karma is a bitch and I can’t let other people stress me out. Bad people will get what they deserve in the end.
9. beware of people who don’t have any real friends…there’s a reason.
10. you most definitely never know where you’re going to end up in life and you shouldn’t waste your time planning for 10 years down the line when shit’s happening right now and you’re missing it
1. nothing is so bad that you can’t come back from it
2. everything DOES happen for a reason (regardless of what my sister says)
3. I’m much stronger than I thought I was (not just physically)
4. there are people out there who will stand by you no matter what…even when you’re difficult and even when they’re tired of always getting you out of the pickle you find yourself in…again
5. I really do love hugs…even though I pretend not to sometimes. It messes up my street cred.
6. Dr. House is right, people do lie about everything and they’re assholes. It’s just a matter of figuring out how much asshole you can handle in a person
7. I do really poorly at standing up for myself. As skeptical and jaded as I am, I am ridiculously naïve and trusting that people are inherently good and loyal. I strongly believe in loyalty…it’s the Spartan warrior code imbedded in my DNA.
8. karma is a bitch and I can’t let other people stress me out. Bad people will get what they deserve in the end.
9. beware of people who don’t have any real friends…there’s a reason.
10. you most definitely never know where you’re going to end up in life and you shouldn’t waste your time planning for 10 years down the line when shit’s happening right now and you’re missing it
Saturday, February 12, 2011
The Day That Doesn't Matter
Sorry to break it to you but Valentine’s day is NOT a real holiday. It’s stupid. And no, I’m not bitter. Are you telling me that there is only 1 day a year where we are supposed to profess our love for another person? Only one day to celebrate our love for each other? Through the means of chocolates, over priced cards and expensive dinners? I think not. I think you should tell me (and show me) you love me all 365 days of the year. Take me out to dinner on a Thursday night just because you love me and want to share a meal with me. Send me a ‘I think you’re amazing’ card on a Sunday and tell me you love me every single day of the week. That’s what’s special.
Last year I spent Valentines Day locked in my apartment where I cleaned, cooked, and worked out for 3 hours. Unfortunately, this dreadful day falls on a Monday and I will have to be subjected to the colors pink and red and people sending secret valentines to each other in school. Bleh. I went with my sister to pick out a Valentine’s Day card for her fiancé. Funnily, there was not one card under $4. Why? Because companies know they can do this and that there are momos out there who will purchase these overpriced pieces of cardboard. Double bleh.
Now, if they wanted to make it a national holiday and give us a day off, I wouldn’t be opposed to that…
Below you will find the various ways this commercialized pseudo-holiday has made its way into other cultures. I thought it was fascinating how one idea translates to other cultures around the world.
- Paper Valentines became so popular in England in the early 19th century that they were assembled in factories. Fancy Valentines were made with real lace and ribbons, with paper lace introduced in the mid-19th century.
- In the UK, just under half the population spend money on their Valentines and around 1.3 billion pounds is spent yearly on cards, flowers, chocolates and other gifts, with an estimated 25 million cards being sent.
- In the U.S., the first mass-produced valentines of embossed paper lace were produced and sold shortly after 1847 by Esther Howland of Worcester, Massachusetts. Howland took her inspiration from an English Valentine she had received from a business associate of her father. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.
- The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately 190 million valentines are sent each year in the US. Half of those valentines are given to family members other than husband or wife, usually to children. When you include the valentine-exchange cards made in school activities the figure goes up to 1 billion, and teachers become the people receiving the most valentines.
- Millions of people use, every year, digital means of creating and sending Valentine's Day greeting messages such as e-cards, love coupons or printable greeting cards. An estimated 15 million e-valentines were sent in 2010
- In Wales, many people celebrate Dydd Santes Dwynwen (St Dwynwen's Day) on January 25 instead of (or as well as) Valentine's Day. The day commemorates St Dwynwen, the patron saint of Welsh lovers.
- In Portugal it is more commonly referred to as "Dia dos Namorados" (Lover's Day / Day of those that are in love with each other).
- In Denmark and Norway, Valentine's Day (14 Feb) is known as Valentinsdag. It is not celebrated to a large extent, but is largely imported from American culture, and some people take time to eat a romantic dinner with their partner, to send a card to a secret love or give a red rose to their loved one.
- In Sweden it is called Alla hjärtans dag ("All Hearts' Day") and was launched in the 1960s by the flower industry's commercial interests, and due to the influence of American culture. It is not an official holiday, but its celebration is recognized and sales of cosmetics and flowers for this holiday are only exceeded by those for Mother's Day.
- In Finland Valentine's Day is called Ystävänpäivä which translates into "Friend's day". As the name indicates, this day is more about remembering all your friends, not only your loved ones.
- In Slovenia, a proverb says that "St Valentine brings the keys of roots," so on February 14, plants and flowers start to grow. It is also said that birds propose to each other or marry on that day. Nevertheless, it has only recently been celebrated as the day of love.
- in Brazil, the Dia dos Namorados (lit. "Day of the Enamored", or "Boyfriends'/Girlfriends' Day") is celebrated on June 12, when couples exchange gifts, chocolates, cards and flower bouquets. The February 14's Valentine's Day is not celebrated at all, mainly for cultural and commercial reasons, since it usually falls too little before or after Carnival, a major floating holiday in Brazil — long regarded as a holiday of sex and debauchery by many in the country.
- In most of South America the Día del amor y la amistad and the Amigo secreto ("Secret friend") are quite popular and usually celebrated together on the 14 of February (one exception is Colombia, where it is celebrated every third Saturday of September). The latter consists of randomly assigning to each participant a recipient who is to be given an anonymous gift (similar a Secret Santa).
- Thanks to a concentrated marketing effort, Valentine's Day is celebrated in some Asian countries with Singaporeans, Chinese and South Koreans spending the most money on Valentine's gifts.
- In South Korea, similar to Japan, women give chocolate to men on February 14, and men give non-chocolate candy to women on March 14 (White Day). On April 14 (Black Day), those who did not receive anything on the 14th of Feb or March go to a Chinese restaurant to eat black noodles ( jajangmyeon) and "mourn" their single life.
- In China, the common situation is the man gives chocolate, flowers or both to the woman that he loves.
- In Republic of China (Taiwan) the situation is the reverse of Japan's. Men give gifts to women in Valentine's Day, and women return them in White Day.
- In the Philippines, Valentine's Day is called "Araw ng mga Puso" or "Hearts Day". It is usually marked by a steep increase in the prices of flowers.
- In Japan, Morozoff Ltd. introduced the holiday for the first time in 1936, when it ran an advertisement aimed at foreigners. Later in 1953 it began promoting the giving of heart-shaped chocolates.
- The custom that only women give chocolates to men appears to have originated from the typo of a chocolate-company executive during the initial campaigns. In particular, office ladies give chocolate to their co-workers. Unlike western countries, gifts such as greeting cards, candies, flowers, or dinner dates are uncommon, and most of the activity about the gifts is about giving the right amount of chocolate to each person. Japanese chocolate companies make half their annual sales during this time of the year.
- In the 1980s the Japanese National Confectionery Industry Association launched a successful campaign to make March 14 a "reply day", where men are expected to return the favour to those who gave them chocolates on Valentine's Day, calling it White Day for the color of the chocolates being offered.
- Men are expected to return gifts that are at least two or three times more valuable than the gifts received in Valentine's Day. Not returning the gift is perceived as the men placing himself in a position of superiority, even if excuses are given. Returning a present of equal value is considered as a way to say that you are cutting the relationship. Originally only chocolate was given, but now the gifts of jewelry, accessories, clothing and lingerie are usual.
- In India, in the antiquity, there was a tradition of adoring Kamadev, the lord of love; exemplificated by the erotic carvings in the Khajuraho Group of Monuments and by the writing of the Kamasutra treaty of lovemaking. This tradition was lost around the Middle Ages, when Kamadev was no longer celebrated, and public displays of sexual affections became frowned upon.
- Around 1992 Valentine's Day started catching in India. However, leftist and liberal critiques of Valentine's day remain strong in India. Valentine's Day has been strongly criticized from a postcolonial perspective by intellectuals from the Indian leftist party.
- In Egypt, Egyptians celebrate Valentine's Day on February 14, and the indigenous Eid el-Hob el-Masri (Egyptian Love Day) on November 4, to buy gifts, and flowers for their lovers. It has been recorded on the February 14th, 2006 flower movement in the country, worth six million pounds, formed a gain of 10 per-cent of the total annual sale of flowers.
-In Iran, the Sepandarmazgan, or Esfandegan, is an age-old traditional celebration of love, friendship and Earth. It has nothing in common with the Saint Valentine celebration, except for a superficial similarity in giving affection and gifts to loved ones, and its origins and motivations are completely unrelated.
- In Israel, the Tu B'Av, is considered to be the Jewish Valentine's Day following the ancient traditions of courtship on this day. Today, this is celebrated as a second holiday of love by secular people (besides Saint Valentine's Day), and shares many of the customs associated with Saint Valentine's Day in western societies.
Last year I spent Valentines Day locked in my apartment where I cleaned, cooked, and worked out for 3 hours. Unfortunately, this dreadful day falls on a Monday and I will have to be subjected to the colors pink and red and people sending secret valentines to each other in school. Bleh. I went with my sister to pick out a Valentine’s Day card for her fiancé. Funnily, there was not one card under $4. Why? Because companies know they can do this and that there are momos out there who will purchase these overpriced pieces of cardboard. Double bleh.
Now, if they wanted to make it a national holiday and give us a day off, I wouldn’t be opposed to that…
Below you will find the various ways this commercialized pseudo-holiday has made its way into other cultures. I thought it was fascinating how one idea translates to other cultures around the world.
- Paper Valentines became so popular in England in the early 19th century that they were assembled in factories. Fancy Valentines were made with real lace and ribbons, with paper lace introduced in the mid-19th century.
- In the UK, just under half the population spend money on their Valentines and around 1.3 billion pounds is spent yearly on cards, flowers, chocolates and other gifts, with an estimated 25 million cards being sent.
- In the U.S., the first mass-produced valentines of embossed paper lace were produced and sold shortly after 1847 by Esther Howland of Worcester, Massachusetts. Howland took her inspiration from an English Valentine she had received from a business associate of her father. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.
- The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately 190 million valentines are sent each year in the US. Half of those valentines are given to family members other than husband or wife, usually to children. When you include the valentine-exchange cards made in school activities the figure goes up to 1 billion, and teachers become the people receiving the most valentines.
- Millions of people use, every year, digital means of creating and sending Valentine's Day greeting messages such as e-cards, love coupons or printable greeting cards. An estimated 15 million e-valentines were sent in 2010
- In Wales, many people celebrate Dydd Santes Dwynwen (St Dwynwen's Day) on January 25 instead of (or as well as) Valentine's Day. The day commemorates St Dwynwen, the patron saint of Welsh lovers.
- In Portugal it is more commonly referred to as "Dia dos Namorados" (Lover's Day / Day of those that are in love with each other).
- In Denmark and Norway, Valentine's Day (14 Feb) is known as Valentinsdag. It is not celebrated to a large extent, but is largely imported from American culture, and some people take time to eat a romantic dinner with their partner, to send a card to a secret love or give a red rose to their loved one.
- In Sweden it is called Alla hjärtans dag ("All Hearts' Day") and was launched in the 1960s by the flower industry's commercial interests, and due to the influence of American culture. It is not an official holiday, but its celebration is recognized and sales of cosmetics and flowers for this holiday are only exceeded by those for Mother's Day.
- In Finland Valentine's Day is called Ystävänpäivä which translates into "Friend's day". As the name indicates, this day is more about remembering all your friends, not only your loved ones.
- In Slovenia, a proverb says that "St Valentine brings the keys of roots," so on February 14, plants and flowers start to grow. It is also said that birds propose to each other or marry on that day. Nevertheless, it has only recently been celebrated as the day of love.
- in Brazil, the Dia dos Namorados (lit. "Day of the Enamored", or "Boyfriends'/Girlfriends' Day") is celebrated on June 12, when couples exchange gifts, chocolates, cards and flower bouquets. The February 14's Valentine's Day is not celebrated at all, mainly for cultural and commercial reasons, since it usually falls too little before or after Carnival, a major floating holiday in Brazil — long regarded as a holiday of sex and debauchery by many in the country.
- In most of South America the Día del amor y la amistad and the Amigo secreto ("Secret friend") are quite popular and usually celebrated together on the 14 of February (one exception is Colombia, where it is celebrated every third Saturday of September). The latter consists of randomly assigning to each participant a recipient who is to be given an anonymous gift (similar a Secret Santa).
- Thanks to a concentrated marketing effort, Valentine's Day is celebrated in some Asian countries with Singaporeans, Chinese and South Koreans spending the most money on Valentine's gifts.
- In South Korea, similar to Japan, women give chocolate to men on February 14, and men give non-chocolate candy to women on March 14 (White Day). On April 14 (Black Day), those who did not receive anything on the 14th of Feb or March go to a Chinese restaurant to eat black noodles ( jajangmyeon) and "mourn" their single life.
- In China, the common situation is the man gives chocolate, flowers or both to the woman that he loves.
- In Republic of China (Taiwan) the situation is the reverse of Japan's. Men give gifts to women in Valentine's Day, and women return them in White Day.
- In the Philippines, Valentine's Day is called "Araw ng mga Puso" or "Hearts Day". It is usually marked by a steep increase in the prices of flowers.
- In Japan, Morozoff Ltd. introduced the holiday for the first time in 1936, when it ran an advertisement aimed at foreigners. Later in 1953 it began promoting the giving of heart-shaped chocolates.
- The custom that only women give chocolates to men appears to have originated from the typo of a chocolate-company executive during the initial campaigns. In particular, office ladies give chocolate to their co-workers. Unlike western countries, gifts such as greeting cards, candies, flowers, or dinner dates are uncommon, and most of the activity about the gifts is about giving the right amount of chocolate to each person. Japanese chocolate companies make half their annual sales during this time of the year.
- In the 1980s the Japanese National Confectionery Industry Association launched a successful campaign to make March 14 a "reply day", where men are expected to return the favour to those who gave them chocolates on Valentine's Day, calling it White Day for the color of the chocolates being offered.
- Men are expected to return gifts that are at least two or three times more valuable than the gifts received in Valentine's Day. Not returning the gift is perceived as the men placing himself in a position of superiority, even if excuses are given. Returning a present of equal value is considered as a way to say that you are cutting the relationship. Originally only chocolate was given, but now the gifts of jewelry, accessories, clothing and lingerie are usual.
- In India, in the antiquity, there was a tradition of adoring Kamadev, the lord of love; exemplificated by the erotic carvings in the Khajuraho Group of Monuments and by the writing of the Kamasutra treaty of lovemaking. This tradition was lost around the Middle Ages, when Kamadev was no longer celebrated, and public displays of sexual affections became frowned upon.
- Around 1992 Valentine's Day started catching in India. However, leftist and liberal critiques of Valentine's day remain strong in India. Valentine's Day has been strongly criticized from a postcolonial perspective by intellectuals from the Indian leftist party.
- In Egypt, Egyptians celebrate Valentine's Day on February 14, and the indigenous Eid el-Hob el-Masri (Egyptian Love Day) on November 4, to buy gifts, and flowers for their lovers. It has been recorded on the February 14th, 2006 flower movement in the country, worth six million pounds, formed a gain of 10 per-cent of the total annual sale of flowers.
-In Iran, the Sepandarmazgan, or Esfandegan, is an age-old traditional celebration of love, friendship and Earth. It has nothing in common with the Saint Valentine celebration, except for a superficial similarity in giving affection and gifts to loved ones, and its origins and motivations are completely unrelated.
- In Israel, the Tu B'Av, is considered to be the Jewish Valentine's Day following the ancient traditions of courtship on this day. Today, this is celebrated as a second holiday of love by secular people (besides Saint Valentine's Day), and shares many of the customs associated with Saint Valentine's Day in western societies.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Where Have All The Encyclodepias Gone?
I think I was around 14-16 years old when I decided to read the Encyclopedia. The whole thing. A- Z. I like books and it was a book and I had nothing else to do. So I did. I use to skim through it anyway. All the books were alphabetized and all in a pretty little row. I love organized uniformity. I used to choose a letter at random and then look through the book, hoping that I pick up some random knowledge to make me smarter than everyone else. The problem was that this edition was from 1979. It was 2000. Some information was outdated, new information needed to be added, but whatever.
I just randomly thought of this a couple of weeks ago. I think it was when I couldn’t sleep. I really want to do it again except I don’t know where to find an encyclopedia that’s made after 1995. Do they even make those anymore? People Google and Wikipedia. I like the book version. The information isn’t always up to date but I like that you can touch it, and turn the pages and smell the musty leather cover.
I hate technology.
I just randomly thought of this a couple of weeks ago. I think it was when I couldn’t sleep. I really want to do it again except I don’t know where to find an encyclopedia that’s made after 1995. Do they even make those anymore? People Google and Wikipedia. I like the book version. The information isn’t always up to date but I like that you can touch it, and turn the pages and smell the musty leather cover.
I hate technology.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Handbook for 2011
So, my friend sent me this a couple of weeks ago in one of those mass forwards. It is one of the more useful ones I have received. This is all stuff we already know, but forget about during the daily bustle of our lives. Read it. Agree with it. Do it. I'm gonna try. Let's hope 2011 picks up because, I don't know about you, but it's been a rough January for me...
HANDBOOK FOR 2011
Health:
1. Drink plenty of water
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and less food that is manufactured in plants
4. Like with the 3 E's--Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Play more games
6. Read more books than you did in 2010
7. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes a day
8. Sleep for at least 7 hours
9. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
Personality:
10. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about
11. Don't have negative thoughts for things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
12. Don't overdo it. Keep your limits.
13. Don't take yourself too seriously. No one else does.
14. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
15. Dream more while you are awake
16. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
17. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness
18. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
19. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
20. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
21. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply a part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime
22. Smile and laugh more
23. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
Society:
24. Call your family often
25. Each day give something good to others
26. Forgive everyone for everything
27. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
28. Try to make at least 3 people smile each day
29. What other people think of you is none of your business
30. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch
Life:
31. Do the right thing!
32. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
33. However good or bad a situation is, it will change...
34. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
35. The best is yet to come...
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Top 10 Worst Ways To Break Up With Someone
Top 10 worst ways to break up with someone:
10. on their birthday (after you give them the present)
9. in a public place in front of lots of people so the other person doesn’t make a scene and you can escape quickly
8. via text/email/messenger/pigeon/singing telegram
7. write it on a post-it note and leave it on the pillow for them to find when they wake up
6. in front of their family at Thanksgiving dinner/ Christmas dinner/ Easter lunch
5. leave a message with their roommate to tell them since you “conveniently” missed them when you passed by (they have yoga class at 8pm every Tuesday. It was Tuesday)
4. have your/their doorman tell them as they hand the person a box of their stuff
3. the ‘fade out’ (don’t call, always be busy, answer texts with one word—if you answer at all—and hope that they catch on quick that you don’t want to see them anymore)
2. invite them over and have your new girlfriend/boyfriend already there
1. move to another state, disconnect all phones and cancel emails/facebook…without telling them
Fucking people.
10. on their birthday (after you give them the present)
9. in a public place in front of lots of people so the other person doesn’t make a scene and you can escape quickly
8. via text/email/messenger/pigeon/singing telegram
7. write it on a post-it note and leave it on the pillow for them to find when they wake up
6. in front of their family at Thanksgiving dinner/ Christmas dinner/ Easter lunch
5. leave a message with their roommate to tell them since you “conveniently” missed them when you passed by (they have yoga class at 8pm every Tuesday. It was Tuesday)
4. have your/their doorman tell them as they hand the person a box of their stuff
3. the ‘fade out’ (don’t call, always be busy, answer texts with one word—if you answer at all—and hope that they catch on quick that you don’t want to see them anymore)
2. invite them over and have your new girlfriend/boyfriend already there
1. move to another state, disconnect all phones and cancel emails/facebook…without telling them
Fucking people.
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