A Snowy Encounter

Some time in February I was at National Underground (it's a bar that has a lot of good live music) scoping out some new bands. Anyway, I went outside. It was gray and just started snowing. On a side note, I think the city is prettiest that way--when it first starts snowing. Everything gets all gray and goes quiet. It doesn't matter how many people are out--it's like everything stops and you can just hear the snowflakes. That's my favorite moment in time. When the city seems quiet and there are just bright lights and a gray fog all over the city. I digress...so I'm there watching the snow fall and a man comes out of National. He walks over to me( I think, "oh, here we go. What line is he going to open with"),stops to the side of me and asks me for a light. He lights his cigarette and sighs deeply. Then he says: "Men really need a script. We never know what to say. I got 'hello' down. Then I completely bombed".
I kinda 'hum'ed in response. Then he walked away and got into a cab.
I have to say that was one of the most bizarre encounters I've ever had. We were two people who barely had an interaction and yet, I remember it. Clearly.

It made me think: 1. Ladies, are we really that scary?? It's crazy that both sexes admit at some point that they've been intimidated by a person of the other sex and yet we still insist on playing games with each other. If we recognize that we're all the same and have the same thoughts and fears then why haven't we come to an understanding? Why aren't we more open with each other? Why is it always a game, a chase? 2. Men, we're not that scary. A little crazy at times (because you make us)but maybe it's the women you're choosing that make you so afraid. It's always scary to interact with a new person but why are you so scared to make a move? Just do it. Nike said so.

There is no script. Not in life. Not in love. We gotta just go with the flow. That's hard for someone who's a planner. I like scripts. I don't do improv. That's why I'm a better writer than a speaker. And I'm a better speaker when I have a script. Maybe I should write mini speeches on index cards for different scenarios in life just in case. Lightbulb.