You Should Care For Those Who Actually Care

The other day someone said to me as I was being sassy that I should "be nicer to those of us who actually give a shit about you and put up with your crazy". They were joking but we all know that 50% of what people say when they're joking is actually true so....

I started thinking that it may have some merit to it. It's not that I'm walking around being an asshole to people but we all don't just go around saying "I appreciate that" and "thank you so much for thinking about me", etc. We know who's there's for us (or at least should know) but because they're always around we tend to take the little things for granted. You can snap at them and they don't get offended, if you're short they'll pay for your happy hour drinks and not expect repayment, they can see when you need some space and give it to you but will always answer the phone when you call. They do all these little things that show they care without reminding you constantly that they do in fact care, so it's easy to forget to acknowledge it.

We all do that--there's at least one person who puts up with our shitty attitudes and may even huff and puff about it and have to tell you sometimes "you're being a dick" but they're not going to walk away from you. When I think about it, it's nice to know that for about 98% of the population, they are that someone who doesn't walk away but is also someone who takes another for granted. It's a nice little circle of 'pay it forward' which makes me feel better about the world, although we sometimes fixate on the people who we would like to care about us and neglect the persons who are actually right in front of us. Is there a point you say 'no more' and walk away, or do you stick it out even if it's one sided and know that you probably do that to someone else?

I need to start being more conscious of that--- when people have seen you at your worst and still want to know you, those are the people you should want to keep around. Not everyone will put up with your shitty attitude (and yes, we all are shitty at some point) and it's interesting to find that one difficult person is another persons gem and in turn, that first person may put up with someone else's shittiness. I love that it's all give and take and we don't even realize it.