Would You Kiss Your Mother With That Mouth?

Here's some scenarios for you....

Boy gets girls number, makes a date, cancels the date the day before and never reschedules. A few months later, hits on same girl at bar forgetting he already blew her off. Then retakes her number. And blows her off again.

Guy passes napkin down the bar that said "are you from Tennessee because you're the only ten I see" then wrote "put response here:

The drunk man on a Thursday who told me to "get off my pedestal" after he invaded our table, spilled beer in the chicken fingers, and I told him to go away because we didn't want to be friends with him (he then found a girl at the bar and within 15 minutes had his hand down her pants. Some girls condone that behavior I guess)

Says "Can I see your boobs?"

Says “you have really nice legs. What time do they open?”

Man breaks up with girlfriend out of the blue. While she's in the shower.

The man with a girlfriend who told someone he worked with that he watches her on the cameras as she works. And got her phone number from the employee database. That’s not creepy at all…

Man goes behind girls on dancefloor and grinds on them without asking if they actually want him invading their personal space

The married man who sends another employee messages filled with LOL's and asks when they're going on a lunch date....frequently and often on her personal phone.



These men all have mothers. And some have sisters, and some may even have daughters one day. Their constant thought should be "what would I do to the man who treated my sister like that?" The answer to that, in most cases, would be "I'd kill him!" You can usually easily tell which man has a mother/sister, and who respects them, which is the key to all this I suppose. If they don't respect the women who they grew up with, how would they magically learn how to respect any woman who they have to deal with later on in life?

The worst is the only child. Not only do they usually have deficient social and interpersonal skills due to constant solo play and mostly adult interactions, but they also lack the understanding of the opposite sex and the need to 'protect them'. Because, in essence, that is what we're talking about: protecting their being, protecting their feelings, being able to share, being able to compromise, and the ability to tolerate constant companionship. I made my sister cry when we were younger but I also shielded her from being hurt and protected her when someone bothered her, same for my brother. I like being alone but I constantly had someone in my room and all up in my stuff. Those are things you learn to deal with. Those are things you learn to do naturally so it's pretty unnatural when you're an only child and used to being on your own. I always wished I had an overprotected older brother instead I'm the oldest and there's no one to protect me but myself. Sigh.

I digressed a bit but will bring it back to the interactions between men and women. For those who aren't only children, the idea of being respectful, and aware of how they're interacting with the opposite sex, should return to their families: monkey see, monkey do. It always fascinates me how people respond to their environment and how they channel what they see into how they act. What habits do we pick up and what habits do we avoid?

If you grow up in a violent household where they're constant yelling and fighting, you respond one of two ways: you grow up and continue with the violence because that's what you learned and know OR you become the opposite and avoid confrontation and always try to be calm, consciously trying to avoid becoming what you've witnessed and aware that it isn't correct behavior.

When you grow up not ever knowing or seeing a functioning and loving relationship you: continue having crappy relationships and the bad choices you make continue to sabotage your chance of ever being happy OR you pin point all the mistakes others have made and you try your hardest not to become what you see/know.

But you have to first be aware that it's affected you to begin with. That's the tricky part. It's a combination of environment and personality and interactions which lead to how we behave and make the life choices we do. Most people can change, if they want to. And on very few occasions, they're just an asshole who hates their mother and who wants to put his hand down your pants at a bar on a Thursday night.